I’d love to have a black wedding dress!
Yes, I said so. Before I even start to talk about why, take a look at this beauty below.
Just look- at – it!
Well, I need to pick my jaw up off the floor staring at it too!
Did you think a dress could ever be this beautiful?
This gorgeous?
Okay, as much as I haven’t so much as fantasized about weddings, I would love to be decked in this kind of dress when it happens. Or, maybe rock it to an award show. This dress is enchantingly dreamy!
Today, let’s talk about weddings, shall we?
Well, to define it, a wedding is a ceremony and ‘ritual’ that takes place to give social acceptance to the relationship between two people; marriage is what happens after. I’m having to define these terms so no one confuses both.
Many people love the odd mix of religion, government, and pageantry that we call weddings. They love to be wedding guests and love to be actors in it themselves. I have been to weddings, seen the long white dresses, worn the bridesmaid dress; and participated in the bridal entrance showdown. To sum up, wedding events are like theatre to me, but with real people. The tremendous amount of happiness and love that goes around is heartwarming, but I sometimes have questions about “wedding rules” and who made them.
Question 1: Why wear white dresses?
Is there a compulsion?
I told a few people about the long, flowing black dress, and they seemed to think I was taking this weirdness to another level. They tell me, “You are an African Sewa! Don’t play too dangerously!” Well, wait, what is dangerous about the black colour?
How do I explain that in my best of moods, 99% of the time, I am wearing black or a touch of it?
2. Why do you need bridesmaids and groomsmen?
Aside from being aesthetic for the wedding photos, why else is the need?
3. Why marry in a church?
Why not garden weddings or destination weddings?
4. Why do we involve vanities?
This is pretty self-explanatory.
5. Why do guests behave as if it is their special day?
I mean, why do people complain about whatever deviates from their vision of an ideal wedding? Is it your wedding? Can’t you get home and make jollof rice for yourself if it didn’t go round?
6. What do you do with all the pictures?
The guests who crowd the couple while wielding their cameras; the photographers who are all over the place pretending to be shooting a movie and everywhere you turn, you hear “Sorry, you are in my shot! Han ahn?! Should I go and stand outside?”
For most of us, love is the most mystifying, complex, powerful, extraordinary, and amazing force in the universe. I genuinely love God, family, and friends, so I understand. It may sound crazy, but I nurse the idea of being clad in an overflowing and cascading black dress in this magnitude when the day comes. I mean, the black colour is quite unconventional for a wedding, but the beauty, the sophistication, and the mystery it communicates are endearing. But if I can’t have black, please gimme the exquisite and extravagant gold.
